Hey Mom, how are babies made?
Tell Dad, what does that mean “con”?
Say Uncle, why you smoke you if smoking is not good?
When one becomes a parent and that our children grow, there is one thing one fears, one thing that terrifies us awkward questions of our children.
We know we can not escape it, it is a compulsory passage from childhood to allow our cherubs to build and acquire some knowledge. Yet we would like to answer simply “because” and return to their games, but we know that we have to answer as best we can to their questions. But how to do it?
I remember a comic called Caesar, this designer Gil Jourdan. A cartoonist keeps the daughter of his neighbor, a little whiny and impatient abominable plague. The girl asked why the kettle sings when the water is inside the end.
César thinks first answer scientifically, but judging the little too young to understand, respond to and child wacky way that “microbes dying scream.” Bad luck for him, the kid treats fool and leaves him the true explanation, learned the day before at school.
All that to say that our children, if they are young, are not provided completely clueless, far from it. Their questions serve to learn, but also to test us, to see if Mom and Dad deserve their place atop the podium that we have forged. In addition, a cute answer, if it has the merit of fun and soften, high risk of getting your child for a donkey if he appears before an adult.
Without falling into the scientific or bla bla useless, know honestly answer your child. For example, to the famous question of the kettle, the ideal answer would be that when the water boils, it turns to steam and it is this vapor that blackmailed the kettle. It’s simple, maybe too much, but it has the merit of being clear.
“You’ll know when you grow up!”
Faced with the question “how babies are made?”, Many parents prefer the leak to an answer they consider too embarrassing to be told to young ears. Pas glop, glop not, to paraphrase the small Pifou! Indeed, far from helping your children, this hazardous response returns them to a condition of inferior and ignorant that they do not like at all.
Worse, it makes you look chitterlings since you are unable to answer their question! That said, you are not obliged either to tell them about storks, bee or some sort of other similar nonsense!
Again, be honest remaining soft: “When Dad and Mom love very hard, they get a big hug in love and it gives a baby a few months later.” A tender way to avoid sperm and eggs while remaining realistic.
I, for this step, a special thought for single parents who are faced with questions of their offspring about the absence of the other. How, indeed, explain to our children that they were not intended or that the other has failed to fulfill its role? How to tell them that maybe it was a choice?
Before their eyes full of questions and doubts, some will say “he is dead”. Cruel, but expeditiously to avoid the question. One way that I strongly disapprove. The truth always knows. Imagine that one day your child returns to its parent or learns that he is still alive? You do not think that you want? That the other parent is a pignouf or simply resigned, or that he has never even knew he had a child, it is better to tell the truth rather than lie.
There, I have no examples to offer. All I can tell you is, be gentle. Do not show resentment or malice towards each other in front of your child. He will soon enough an opinion on the matter.